Do you have a perfectionist living in your house? Perfectionism is a driving desire to be perfect 100% of the time. Your bright child might show you his or her desire for perfectionism by hyperfocusing on a project or refusing to begin a project out of fear of failure. Assuming you are not demanding perfection from your children and instilling a feeling of inadequacy in him/her/them, how can you help?
IF YOU ARE AN IMPATIENT SOUL, JUMP DOWN TO STEP 3
Step One: SELF CHECK. Are you guilty of perfectionist behavior? Do you see yourself as enough or are you plagued by doubt and fear of failing? Take a moment to think of adjectives that describe you. If your adjectives are primarily negative, start practicing positive self-talk.
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Let your children hear you speak kindly to yourself. Ask them to do so as well. What do they like about themselves? Even if it awkward, be sure to speak your affirmations out loud. Make a family tradition out of it. We are all stuck at home during this time of quarantine. Do you have ten minutes to spare with shared affirmations?
Step Two: OPPORTUNITIES TO PRACTICE IMPERFECTION. In a world of participation trophies, many parents get irritated that children are rewarded for NOT trying their best. That is not what I am advocating. I am inviting you to offer opportunities in areas where they might not be as strong academically, physically, or socially. In my house this looks like an art project for my eldest that he knows we are not going to save or a quiz where I purposefully put questions he does not know the answer to and ask him to complete it without getting frustrated and then using the wrong answers as the START of a new lesson. It looks like a martial arts challenge for my youngest that she might not be ready for but we laugh about as we try it and fall together.
Step Three: PRACTICE FOR Frustration
That brings us to today’s lesson. Congratulations! You made it!
Our regularly scheduled school day was nearly derailed by a moment of frustration. Like I said, I have been including assignment that are not hard but designed to be tedious so we can recognize frustration before it overwhelms us. Where do we feel it in our body? What does it make us do? We reconvened on the comfortable living room couches and started this lesson. TRY IT! Have your kiddos give you the answers. The answers below were given by my nine and five year old.
THE EXERCISE
1. I can fling that feeling out. What would happen to your clothes if I hit you with that food dye? It could stain, right?
2. I could ignore the feeling and go about my day. I go to flip the cup and put it away but it spills, accidentally spilling on me, where I set it, and maybe on another cup in the cabinet. Since I am ignoring it I might even walk around touching things with my stained fingers before they dry, sharing a little bit of that feeling everywhere I go even though I don’t mean it. That’s not good, is it?
3. I can dilute the dye until its no longer dangerous….
Baby Girl’s drawing of the three choices.
DILUTING THE FRUSTRATION (or sadness, envy…)
Now that feeling is a little less dangerous to me and to you. If I fling it (and we did!) my clothes do not stain. The other person just gets a little wet. It is also a lot harder to ignore now that I have surrounded it with my coping skills. I know I am not trying to put that away in the cabinet. I can SEE that mess coming and I am no dummy.
No, I can accept that feeling and deal with it now that my glass is filled with so many tools to help me.
And it tasted delicious.
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